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Sri Bhagavan on How to Deal with Close Relationships.

Question: Sri Bhagavan, why do we listen to some people and not to others, this things happen especially with our parents and close-people, close-one's tell us things and we ignore them, same things told by others we listen to them, these things are hurting others, how to deal with them?




Bhagavan: See, in a close relationship we generally take that relationships for granted. it is so close to us,we feel it belongs to me, its mine. so we take that relationships for granted naturally. so, whenever,our parents say something we feel as if they are trying to dominate us or they are trying to control us. that is the way we perceive it. if our relationships with our parents and our close-one's is friendship then this issue will not be there. The framework of friendship is not there in relationships. we are putting into framework all our spouse, our parents or brother or somebody know, where all this kind of framework comes out, where we feel they are dominating us. But if your relationships with your brother or spouse or parents is friendship then, this problem will not be there. so first, you must have this framework of friendship. that will solve this problem. if its your friend, you will listen to them. that's why you should have friendship in your relationships.

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